Adrienne's Question: "If somebody keeps saying bad words
over and over again, how do we help them to stop?"


Hi Adrienne,

Thank you for your INCREDIBLE question. As a matter of fact, it was so
incredible that we've really had to do some research on it.
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Acts 17:28a (NIV)
If the "somebody" in your question is a family member or a good friend, you will need to respond
differently than if it is a classmate at school.

Keep in mind that these are our OPINIONS, and every scenario is different, so you may have to try a
variety of things before you are able to feel at peace with your problem.

Ok, so here goes it:

If the “Cursing Captain” is your brother, sister, cousin or close friend, consider this:

1.        PRAY for them. Pray that the Lord would convince them that saying bad words is a VERY bad idea.
Pray that God would give you the right words to say when you are around them. Also pray that He will wipe
the bad memory of those ugly words from your mind FOREVER. Prayer brings peace.
2.        TALK to them. Tell them that their foul language is offensive to you, that you don’t want them to
speak that way around you, and that it makes you very sad to hear them talk that way.
3.        If the problem keeps up, talk to your mom or dad and tell them you need help. That’s what they’re
there for, and they will be happy to help you figure out what you need to do.

If the “Profanity Prince or Princess” is your classmate or peer, consider this:

1.        PRAY for them in the same way as above. Also pray that you will not be led into temptation to use
the words with them. Pray that their mom or dad or teacher would become aware and help them stop their
poor behavior.
2.        WALK AWAY. If at all possible, walk away from someone who begins using foul language.
Especially if they keep going and going with it.
3.        TALK to them if you can’t walk away or if you feel safe doing so. Tell them that cursing is boring and
offensive and how it makes you feel. Tell them that they would be more fun to be with if they got rid of that
language. Also, compliment them in some way. Tell them what you think their good qualities are. Maybe
they will think about it later and begin to work on those instead of trying to get attention with bad language.
4.        HELP them if they seem open to change. Tell them that it is more fun to come up with creative and
fun substitutes to their icky language. For example, instead of Oh my, G___, maybe they could say, “Oh my
Egg Pickle Sandwich.” It is much more fun to use creativity when we’re upset, isn’t it?  
5.        If they are not open to change, it’s time to consult your parents again. They will help you decide if
you need to talk to a teacher or a principal or someone else.

Here’s a few scriptures to help you on this subject:

Matthew 5:43-45

43 "You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbor.—(Leviticus 19:18) Hate your enemy.' 44 But
here is what I tell you. Love your enemies. Pray for those who hurt you. 45 Then you will be sons of your
Father who is in heaven.
"He causes his sun to shine on evil people and good people. He sends rain on those who do right and those
who don't.”

Romans 12:14 (New International Version)
14 ”Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.”

Romans 12:21 (New International Reader's Version)
21 “Don't let evil overcome you. Overcome evil by doing good.”

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